Friday, June 11, 2021

BACK TO EXPLAINING IT ALL

 



Oh hey there everyone!! This is me now.
36, divorced, full-time working single mom to an almost 3 year old. 

Life has been a whirlwind.

But I think I might retire this domain and head on back to my original platform : www.tessexplainsitall.com

Come visit me over there for more up to date posts!

Thursday, October 24, 2019

"What It's Like To Be A Single Mom" and other amazing stories

Photo: Refinery29 Article


I really loved this article from Refinery29 so much. So many different stories on how parenthood and being a mom looks to them. And all of these moms are doing okay. Surviving and living in their "norm" and being the best moms that they can given whatever different circumstance they are in.

This article gives me hope. I truly enjoyed reading this.

Monday, August 5, 2019

"Spring Will Come But You Must Wait For the Winter To Pass"

Poosh, Kourtney Kardashian's website, is one of the newest blogs on my daily reading list. I find her content to be very interesting and informative. This article she posted recently "The Light in the Darkness" really hit home and is exactly what I needed in my life.
Click the link below to see for yourself. 




Link: The Light In the Darkness


Thursday, June 6, 2019

Quote of the Day

 I just read this on a blog and I love it so much.
If life is hard right now think of it like this:

"You are walking through a fire. If you stop now, you will burn. So you gotta keep moving."

Great read and beautiful home interior inspiration!
A Photographer and Mom of Three Reveals How Her Design Style Changed After Divorce


Source: The Everymom.com article, link above

Tuesday, June 4, 2019

8 Months Old: Our Daily Schedule (Working Mom @ Office)



Hi everyone!!
I am all about reading people's daily routines. I love seeing people's own schedules and I enjoy how much everyone's differ.
I thought it would be fun to show what a normal weekday looks like for us now that Will and I are both back to work, Ryenn is on a regular sleep schedule and our days arent AS hectic now that I've gotten the hang of it a bit.

Monday-Thursday:

6:00am I start my mornings and wake up around 6am. If I've taken a shower the night before, I'll skip it in the morning and head straight into washing my face, brushing my teeth, and getting ready for work. I'll also go downstairs and start a pot of coffee and make Ryenn's bottle.

6:30am-7:00am Ryenn wakes up to start her day anywhere from 6:30-7:00am.
If she's still sleeping by 7am we will go in her room and wake her up. One of my favorite parts of my day is going in her room when she's awake and being the first to say good morning. I love her little smile and how her face lights up when I come into the room.

7:00am: First bottle of the day, 7oz

7:00am: As Ryenn's having her breakfast, I am out the door and off to work. My husband takes over from here when it comes to baby duties.

7:00am-5:30pm It takes me about 10 to 15 minutes to get to the office. I am currently working 4, 10 hour days so I can have Friday's off and more time with Ryenn. I really like having three day weekends, but I will admit it's hard when 4 days a week I only get about 2.5 hours a day with her. That's it!! :(  I work in accounting so my days are filled with meetings, processing checks, paying bills, balancing books...etc. Fun stuff! ha

8:30am: Now we are on dad's schedule. He gets ready for work, changes Ryenn into her outfit of the day (#OOTD) and packs up her bottles, food and takes her to daycare.

10:00am If Ryenn isnt napping, Ryenn gets her bottle every 3 hours. 10am should be her next feeding. 7oz, given by daycare teacher

10:00-11:30am- Nap, play... differes every day at daycare.

11:30am Ryenn gets one jar of solids for lunch, I've been loving this brand of baby food and Ryenn so far seems to love all the flavors offered. I did make her babyfood myself the first month of her starting solids, but I found it easier to just buy the jars to save on time and I like that it's organic with only 1-2 ingredients. I didnt feel so bad when I stopped making her food. #realtalk

1:00pm-5:30pm The day continues the same at daycare for Ryenn. She gets a bottle every 3 hours, naps and plays in between and gets one more jar of solids around 2-3pm

5:30pm - Will picks up Ryenn from daycare

5:45pm  I get home from work and cuddle with Ryenn and start dinner. Ryenn LOVES being held by us at all times right now so usually dinner consists of Will and I both in the kitchen and taking turns holding Ryenn and passing her back and forth while we cook.

6:30pm: Dinner - we sit down for dinner and lately Ryenn has been really good about sitting at the table with us in her highchair and snacking on some puffs while we eat.

7:00pm: After dinner Will and I will hang out and play with Ryenn and her toys and head up for bathtime right around 7pm. I'm 99% of the time on bath duty so while I give Ryenn a bath, Will will clean up the dishes from dinner and pick up around downstairs.

7:30pm: Ryenn and I finish up the bath and get her dressed in her jammies and head back downstairs for her last bottle. We'll sit on the couch and feed her her bottle.

7:45-8pm This is wind down time for us. I take Ryenn back upstairs and we sit in her rocking chair in her nursery and read books. She's really loving the "touch and feel" books right now. This one is her favorite.

8:00pm - Bedtime: I turn on the white noise machine, turn off her lamp and leave only her nightlight on and lay Ryenn down in her crib to sleep. She loves her "wubbanub" paci so I give that to her and she is one happy camper.
So far, Ryenn has been wonderful sleeper and will usually go straight to sleep with no fuss and sleep through the night. **fingers crossed emoji**

8:15pm-9:30pm  As of late, I've started going to the gym more consistently. The gym is right next to our house, so I usually get all dressed in my workout gear before bathtime, and then once I lay Ryenn down to bed, I head straight to the gym. Or I'll have Will put Ryenn down to bed, and I'll sneak away to the gym a little earlier. Like 7:45pm

9:45pm I get home, shower, and crawl into bed. And that is our normal day!

In case you're curious what our feeding schedule looks like, here is a breakdown. I only say this because I find this the most interesting when reading other mom's daily routines. I'm not sure if I'm giving her enough or too much, but this schedule works for us right now.

Ryenn's feeding schedule (8 months old)
7:00am 7oz bottle
10:00am 7oz bottle
11:30am : 4oz jar of food
1:00pm 7oz bottle
3:30pm 4oz jar of food
4:00pm 7oz bottle
7:30pm 7 oz bottle

The end!

Wednesday, April 17, 2019

Sleep Training Update Nights 1 through 5 (Thursday-Tuesday)

Ryenn Rose: 6 1/2 Months old right before bedtime

We are almost a week into sleep training and I wanted to let my readers know how it all went.
We started last Thursday night as planned.
She has a later bedtime than most babies so I started her nighttime routine at about 8:15pm

I gave her a bath, put on a fresh diaper with diaper cream, put lotion on her body and put her in her pajamas. Then we went into her nursery and I sat with her in the rocking chair and read her a book. I read to her for about 10 minutes.
Then I got up, turned on the white noise sound machine, gave her her pacifier and laid her down in the dock-a-tot in her crib. I turned out the lights so only a very dim night-light was on, and I told her goodnight and walked out and closed the door.

I waited anxiously for the crying to begin. And by some miracle of miracles, she did not cry. I watched her in the baby monitor and she laid there for a few minutes then fell asleep.

This is not normal for most babies, I know. Usually from what I hear you can expect them to cry right as you lay them down and leave the room. Then the countdown should begin. It's recommended you wait 2-3 minutes the first round. I had decided my minute countdown would be every 2, 4 6, then 10 minutes max.

But Ryenn did not cry right away. She fell asleep. I was in shock! The only reason I can think she didn't fuss this first night was because she's used to being put in her crib to sleep for naps at daycare and she's used to being put in her dock-o-tot at night when it's officially bedtime. So being in her nursery in her crib did not phase her, I guess.

Ryenn only woke up once this first night. Around 4am she woke up and cried so I waited the 2 minutes, went in her room and gave her her paci, and she fell right back asleep.
Night 2 was about the same. She fell asleep with no fuss and woke up twice in the night. Even waiting for 2 minutes while she cried was really hard. But I would go in there, give her her paci and she would fall back asleep. I didnt have to go longer than 2 minutes until night 4. On the 4th night she woke up around 3am and would not fall back asleep. The first time I went in her room I was in her room for 15 minutes trying to soothe her and get her to go back asleep. I should have left her after a few minutes and not have stayed in there that long. But it was really hard to walk away when she was crying and upset.
Finally after about 15 minutes she settled down so I left her room. Within minutes she was crying again. So I waited 4 minutes and went back into her room. The third time after I left her, she started crying AGAIN so I waited 6 minutes. It takes all the strength you have to hear your baby crying and not tend to her right away. It's complete torture. I laid in bed just watching the minutes tick by until I could go in her room and save her.
But luckily, right at the 6 minute mark before I got up to go into her room, she stopped crying! And she fell asleep! I could not believe it. She didnt have her pacifier in or anything She fell asleep just completely on her own.

The nights following this night, she slept through the entire night without crying. It's like crying it out for just 6 minutes somehow taught her to self soothe.
My mommy friends told me it takes 3-4 nights and then they should have the hang of it and they will be "sleep trained." I think I just got really lucky that I didnt have to go through too much of the crying stage.

I will keep you posted on how the transition goes next week (I think we'll start Monday night) on sleeping in her crib without the dock-a-tot.
Let me know if you have any questions in the comment section!

Thursday, April 11, 2019

Tonight We Start Sleep Training

Ryenn napping in her crib at 8 weeks old


Hi everyone!! Tonight we are going to officially start the process of sleep training baby Ryenn. I've been telling everyone I know and thinking about it all week. I'm sure I'm building this up way too much in my head, but I'm just so nervous.
Ryenn has slept in our room with us since she was born. And now she's 6 1/2 months old so you can understand why this is such a big deal to me.
But I know now is the perfect time to begin so I'm both nervous and ready for it at the same time.

When Ryenn was born she was just like any other newborn baby and it was very hard to get her to sleep peacefully through the night. Mostly because I had to wake her up every 2 hours to nurse, and the hard part was putting her back down to sleep after nursing her.  We first started with the bassinet next to our bed.  Sometimes she would sleep great in it, other times she would start crying the moment you laid her down. Since the bassinet didn't seem to be working, we tried the Rock N Play. This was 6 months ago, and back before the recall and all the recent reports came out of babies rolling over and dying in them. Terrible! If I had known this of course we would have never tried.
But I will say, the first few weeks, Ryenn would ONLY sleep in her Rock N Play at night. It was the only thing that would put her to sleep.
I would not do this again with a second baby because it's just too risky with all the new developments that just came out.
Those first few months after Ryenn was born are such a blur, but I want to say Ryenn probably slept in her Rock N Play for 2-3 weeks. After just a few weeks she got sick of the Rock N Play and it wasnt working for her anymore. So thank the heavens above for the Dock-o-Tot. We placed the dock-o-tot in bed between us (you really need a King size bed I feel for this to work comfortably) and Ryenn slept in her Dock-o-Tot every night from that point on. I love the Dock-o-Tot so much. When she woke up in the middle of the night I could easily pick her up and nurse her, and lay her back down with minimal effort. She was safe in the cocoon like shape so I knew she would't roll off the bed.... and I think she felt very safe and cozy in it. She loved it. And I felt good about her sleeping in it because she was flat on her back.

Tonight when we transfer her to the crib I'm going to do a week of her sleeping in her dock-o-tot in the crib. I think that'll make the transition of her sleeping in a new bedroom, a little more familiar.
I have no idea or what to expect with how she will react to a new bedroom.

Right now I put her to bed around 9pm and I lay her down in her dock-o-tot in our bed and she fusses a little but then falls right to sleep. It is a breeze! Pray for me that all goes well these next few nights and Ryenn doesn't freak out. I will keep you posted daily on our routine and how it's going!

 

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